4 Tips for Flourishing at Work


In Drop the Ball, Tiffany Dufu shares her journey from perfectionist mom/career woman to freedom from her own and society's standards on doing it all.  While the bulk of her book speaks to women, I'd like to highlight her advice for all of us to boost our careers and quality of life. 

Her Four Go-tos:

  1. Going to Sleep: she placed this as # 4 but I shifted it to #1 because really, when we're sleep-deprived, the others are less effective. My tactic to ensure I get 8 hours of sleep: set an alarm for getting ready for bed. I need an alarm at night to get me to bed because I usually want to stay up and get another thing done...then another. Then my mind is so wired I have a hard time falling asleep. So every night (seven days a week) at 9:30 p.m. my alarm reminds me to get to bed on time.

  2. Going to Exercise: Exercise brings all kinds of mental and physical benefits. I embed exercise into my day by using a walk as the "second course" at lunch. That way I'm sure to not miss out. Plus I get the best epiphanies away from my desk. I also arrange walking coffee dates whenever possible.

  3. Going to Lunch: Nurturing relationships with our network takes regular care and feeding. You wouldn't wait to plant a vegetable garden until you're hungry, right? After meeting someone I click with, I follow up with a handwritten card. I do this every Friday as part of my end-of-week ritual.

  4. Going to Events: Build your visibility by reaching for micro and macro opportunities to practice public speaking skills. My first baby steps were volunteering to introduce speakers at conferences. In this way I got to talk with them about their intros plus connect 1:1 before the event.

Check out Drop the Ball for an insightful read on one woman's journey letting of perfect. What perfection standards have you dropped so you can focus on what matters most? Do you have rituals or habits that nourish your work life?

Judy Dang